It is a strange feeling when you travel and return home, excited to see friends and family and seeking some comforts from home. Seeing your family and friends they ask about your adventures and how amazing it must be living in another country, especially Italy. You talk and answer questions for a few hours; talking about the splendor yet making them aware of the hardships that surround the ancient world of romance thus ruining the images that films have created of how “amore filled” adventures cascaded from the sky from the gods.
This is the scene day one and maybe day two afterwards you are you to them again; the only difference you have been somewhere. Then Christmas begins and the real traditions start. And the usually statements begin…….
-“SO…. , no boyfriend yet?
-“when are you going to get married , you’re not young anymore?”
-“You DO like men, RIGHT?”
-“I would think some guy over there would marry you ”
-“well, maybe one day you will meet someone…,,,,,,,hopefully”
-“You DO want children?”
-“well , how do think you will meet a man when you keep running them away”
-“Dress up more”
It goes on and on .
I am an adult yet these moments happen , my parents thankfully are NOT the culprits of this just the rest of the family and some friends ( the- married -and -second- kid- on- the- way-friend) have disapproved of my lack of skills in “capturing” a man.
I feel pressured.
I leave the room, walk away from the conversation, or go for a walk. I hate this part and always will.
I just want to return to Italy now, where this part of my life doesn’t happen. Even though I do want a partner, I have no clue how to “capture” one to the point of marriage and/or children. I just want some one that will automatically warm my feet in the winter under the covers. I am not skilled in the art of seduction or whatever is required now a days to attract a mate.
My family and friends they mean well, it’s their way of showing concern ( I hate it) yet I still love them. This has been the way of expressing concern for centuries. It is not the best way yet it has made it to 2014 and counting.